For three years Now I’ve been involved in the debate between the radical / gender critical feminists and the trans community over the right who should enter women’s spaces. Involved in that debate has also seen gender critical trans identifying males have a voice!
Here I want to talk about the roll of the gender critical trans community some of whom are post op and there’s some like myself who aren’t considering surgery and some who are!
Speaking for myself I admit I’m male. I pull no punches about that. Since coming out on what is considered the trans community I have been on a roller coaster ride of emotions. In the beginning I was lost on the issue but commonsense soon prevailed and here I am today being brutally honest!
I have no reason to enter any female spaces unless it is to save a life or help evacuate a place if there is a fire. That’s just a humane thing to do! However day to day there is no reason to enter said spaces to either change or go to the toilets.
Anyone following my blog will know I’ve talked about the toilet issues before. No one has an issue with me entering male bathrooms.
Here’s how it works for me. I go to a bar in a mid thigh pretty red frock. I have a few gorgeous cocktails. After a while I need a pee so up I get and enter the male bathroom where I head to the cubicle. I do what I have to do then get up and wash my hands. No questions asked usually. If some one asks me about my identity i answer politely which then tends to end with me educating other men about violence towards women!
Since I was going to a cocktail / wine bar last night I made a bit of an effort to dress up. I got compliments off both men and women. One woman even gave me a peck on the lips. A great night made even better with a ride home!
I’ve listened to many women and their concerns / fears which I for one need addressing. One of the biggest concerns / fears is how are they supposed to supposed to tell the difference between a man dressing up who may rape / sexually assault and a genuine trans person. Gender critical trans identifying males agree they are genuine concerns.
Here’s the big question.
How many of those gender critical trans identifying males use women’s spaces? Many actually do! They argue they are accepted by women friends, colleagues etc. However that isn’t all women so should they not lead by example and use the men’s to show its safe to use male spaces? It will also put pressure on the rest of the trans community to follow suit!
If we are telling everyone else on the trans spectrum to leave women’s spaces alone then EVERY gender critical trans identifying male needs to stick to the men’s. It really isn’t dangerous. Most of you follow me on social media and you’ve read my stories on entering male spaces.
The more gender critical trans identifying males get back into the men’s will be better for everyone. This will supportive to women and as important help educate other men into widening the scope of what it means to be male! It will also put pressure on the rest of the trans community to follow suit too!
Are you going to be on the right side of history?
Thank you Hope! Great article!
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And that is it, widen the scope of what it means to be male. Men are not shirts and ties, men can have fun with clothing and toss out the stereotypes that supposedly define them without rejecting being male.
You totally rock those pink boots BTW.
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You are courageous, articulate , self aware and compassionate- everything I hope my sons will be. Thank you. Great legs, btw (hope you don’t mind me saying that but – if you’ve got it, flaunt it!).
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You are gorgeous. Has anyone ever told you that?
And yes, you’re right. Trans people need to start claiming their rightful spaces, for their own good and ours.
Thank you for being the voice of reason.
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Reblogged this on oopster74 and commented:
And I’ve used the female loos and changing facilities since 1999 with little or no issue. The only problems I’ve ever had have come as a result of ignorance.
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I’ve just realised that I forgot to mention that I am trans, I’ve still had no issue that wasn’t a result of ignorance.
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So you’re male use the male bathrooms. Not hard. You just walk in the male cubicle!
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No, I’m female, using the female facilities, that’s not hard either.
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No you’re male. Just because you cut your dick off doesn’t make you a woman. There are still several thousand DNA in your body that says you’re male.
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“Cut my dick off”? I think you’ll find it’s more complicated than “cutting my dick off”.
Are you ignorant of the facts or deliberately spreading falsehoods?
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Look mate I know all about surgery. Destroying a perfectly working organ is the most stupid thing ever! Still don’t make you a woman. Its laughable that you men think you’re more female that biological women with your wigs and crotchless knickers.
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I don’t think we’re friends, so don’t call me “mate”, only my actual mates get to do that.
You clearly have issues, and I’ve better things to be doing with my time than argue with someone like you.
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It was you who contacted me just like them other eunuchs
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Fantastic! ❤️
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